I Am Alive

I just wanted you all to know that I am alive. We are currently in the process of moving so I have no internet and I detest typing on my phone. Can we say fat fingers? Haha.

Anyway lovelies I am still around and shall resume writing away shortly after we get settled into the new house!

Love and light!

A Few New Scarfs

Today I got a really great present. Last week my mother got me a gift certificate to wrapunzel for my birthday next week. She gave it to me early in hopes that I could use it and get my items in time for my birthday. Lo and behold they came in today. I was so happy that i actually wanted to do a little dance.

Part of the reason that I was so dang happy about the new pashminas was not just because they were new and oh so beautiful! It also had a lot to do with the way that I covering my head. Now I don’t think that there is anything wrong with using things like infinity scarves and such for a veil. However, there is something that is just amazing about having a few beautiful pashminas that were made just for wrapping my head. It feels like a hug just for my head.

Better yet because of the new shapper that I got it is a lot easier to actually tie two scarfs at once. So i gave it a shot today… and it didn’t turn out half bad… at least not half bad in my opinion. Of course I am always open to help with other ways to tie a pashmina… so hit me with them!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love and Light

Cultural Appropriation and the Tichel

Now before I begin to really get into what my life is like as a pagan woman who practices veiling I feel the need to say a few words on the topic of cultural appropriation. Cultural appropriation is the adoption or use of elements of one culture by members of another culture.

I do want to note that I do not believe that any one culture has exclusive to the way that a person ties a scarf upon their head. There are a multitude of ways for someone to tie a scarf or veil and while the style in which some people tie their scarfs or veils may mirror another cultures there is no harm in that so long as they follow a few basic rule.

Firstly when you are using a veil ensure that you call it something that is not tied to a religious group. I have seen this all through the community of people that are pagan and choose to veil. One of the biggest examples of this is the use of the word tichel as a descriptive word for the kind of head covering a person decides to wear.

While I will admit to using the use of the word tichel when I am looking for a way to wrap and while looking for places to buy new head coverings, I will never use the word tichel to describe the way that I am covering my head and unless you are a Jewish woman you shouldn’t either.

Tichel is the Yiddish word for the headscarf worn by many married Orthodox Jewish women in compliance with the code of modesty known as tzniut, which requires married women to cover their hair. Since I myself and not practicing tzniut I feel that it would be wrong of me to use the word tichel to describe my covering.

So what are we supposed to do when we talk about the way that we cover our head? While that is historical proof that our pagan ancestors also covered their head I have yet to come across a term that is exclusive to pagans and the way that they cover their head. So to keep it simple and not to step on any toes in any other religious community I call my choice to cover my head as just that… my head covering, a veil, or a scarf. These are terms that are not appropriating any particular culture as they don’t belong to any one culture or religion.

Remember that a tichel is not a style of wearing a scarf but the name of the head covering anĀ  Orthodox Jewish woman wears. Now another term that I see used to talk about a type of head covering that I agree with using is pashmina. This is a term that I agree with using when talking about a head covering because it legitimately describes what the kind of scarf you are using. A pashmina is a kind of fabric, a tichel is not.

Why I Decided to Veil

Have you ever felt the NEED to do something that you cannot explain; the desire to do something that is life altering although you cannot express exactly what it is that is drawing you to make the change? For me the idea of veiling is that need.

I would say that it started a while ago, the concept that there was something missing in my daily religious practices. A few weeks ago I began to have dreams in which i was veiled. This wasn’t a practice that I saw myself doing only when I was in prayer but also in my daily life. Now at this point it is important to note that I had no idea that there was a community of pagans who not only felt the same way but also were practicing this amazing concept in their daily lives.

As the weeks went by and the dreams continued to be more and more persistent I began actually looking into veiling as it could relate to Paganism. The more that I learned the more that I began to see that this was a calling to me from one of the Goddess that I worship, Hestia. I decided that I needed to take to the calling and a little under a week ago I began to veil full time.

While I was looking into the idea of veiling I came across several different blogs and sites from other people who had traveled down this road before me. I told myself that if I ever decided to start veiling and when I had a better understanding of what I was doing that I would start a blog myself… with the idea of hopefully helping other people who had the desire to veil find the confidence to do so. However, as I have stated before I am still very new to the physical practice of veiling. So maybe I am a little early with starting this journey, but i noticed with all of my research that I didn’t come across anyone who blogged about their experiences from the start of their journey.

So I suppose the long and short of it is that I have a desire to fill that particular gap. So while I am 5 days into this journey I have decided that I would start a blog now in hopes that someday someone who is like me will stumble upon it and that perhaps some of the confusion that may follow when making the choice to veil will be cleared up.

At least that is my deepest hope.

Love and Light
Ashley